How should I handle this situation?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. He is wonderful and one day we would like to get married. The only issue is his ex gf (who he dated for 8 years).
Although she has already had two different relationships during this time, it really feels like she never got over it and sneakily wants to be in his life (he wants nothing to do with her).
For example, since she found out that we started dating, she tried and successfully worked her way back into his inner circle- they had similar friends (as they dated for so long). But before he started dating me, she completely stopped talking to his inner circle and didn’t want any friendship with them.
Unfortunately to make matters worse my boyfriend’s best friend is dating her best friend (she was the matchmaker). She tried in every way possible to organize trips/outings with my boyfriends best friend and often he spends more time with her and her bf than with us. I can see this upsets my bf.
But worst of all (as we thought that with time things would get better) most of the people he knew/that were nice to me at the beginning of the relationship barely talk to me or say hello. They look at me as if I were the reason they aren’t together anymore. Even though she flaunts how happy she is with her new relationship.
Luckily we barely see any of these people anymore but it is quite hurtful as I really wanted to get along with his friends and not feel like this unwelcome outcast.
Although she has already had two different relationships during this time, it really feels like she never got over it and sneakily wants to be in his life (he wants nothing to do with her).
For example, since she found out that we started dating, she tried and successfully worked her way back into his inner circle- they had similar friends (as they dated for so long). But before he started dating me, she completely stopped talking to his inner circle and didn’t want any friendship with them.
Unfortunately to make matters worse my boyfriend’s best friend is dating her best friend (she was the matchmaker). She tried in every way possible to organize trips/outings with my boyfriends best friend and often he spends more time with her and her bf than with us. I can see this upsets my bf.
But worst of all (as we thought that with time things would get better) most of the people he knew/that were nice to me at the beginning of the relationship barely talk to me or say hello. They look at me as if I were the reason they aren’t together anymore. Even though she flaunts how happy she is with her new relationship.
Luckily we barely see any of these people anymore but it is quite hurtful as I really wanted to get along with his friends and not feel like this unwelcome outcast.
31-35, F
