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Do YOU think sexuality matters in dating?

Hello folks,

So recently I came across a debate that nobody can agree on. A lot of people say when they find somebody attractive then sexuality matters a lot? But obviously say you are gay, you aren't going to approach somebody straight romantically even if you wanted to and even if you were attracted to them. WHY? well because primary you don't want to make them uncomfortable and sexuality is "private". But surely if you are looking to date it's better know somebody's sexuality before you make a move.

Assuming it is a NON- HOMOPHIC zone and the country is safe for all, surely it's not an issue. And also heres another dilema...
If you look "straight" how do you put yourself out there without people liking you for your sexuality? It's known that hookup culture doesn't work for geniune relationships if that's what you are looking for, for example say you don't meet them in a sexual setting e.g a club and you want to get to know them romantically, how is that even initiated amongst gay people?

What do you think? How can one develop a genuine romantic connection putting stereotypes aside?
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Reject · 31-35, M
Don’t approach anyone romantically. Just be their friend and it’ll come up eventually.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject Yes ... And get friendzoned? Or have them disgusted I'd rather not
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 You can’t date anyone without being their friend. Sexuality is talked about between friends all the time without it being disgusting.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject How did it go for you?
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 It went great. I’ve never been happier.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject Thats amazing, can you tell me why you " can't date anybody without being their friend" because I find it otherwise. For example, couples that are made from co workers and classmates ik about you but I never found friends attractive because I saw them as friends
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 The most successful long-term relationship I’ve ever seen, they’ve been happily together for more than 30 years, gave really simple advice: “If you want a good relationship with someone that lasts, find a best friend you want to sleep with.”
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject Most same sex relationships stay platonic even if they are "besties" and I have plenty of male best friends but they all seem to find girlfriends. Yes your theory plays safe and ofc it's very convenient to go for a best friend. But if they find out you want them like that they might leave
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 People might leave you no matter what you do, but they’re more likely to stay if you bonded with them beyond physical attraction.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject I wish that was true but that's life I guess. Ppl stay and leave
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 And they leave a whole lot more if all you have to offer is your body with no other connection.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject I disagree, I had a close friend leave and ocstrasize me bcuz they were freaked out that I liked them. But they always idolized me and enjoyed spending time with me. In no way I tried to get sexual because I kinda felt ashamed for being attracted to them. Also I have no experience if sex and I would never give myself up like this and I hope you never did.
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 Don’t look at your personal experiences and think that’s all there is to life.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject how do you think then? And where do your ideas come from if not from experience
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
I'm just interested
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 My ideas comes from my experience, sure, but I’m also open minded to things I haven’t experienced so I learned a lot from observation and talking with others. I don’t disagree with something or think it’s impossible just because it’s not what I know.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject I'm the same as you it's just that I have experience the whole best friend thing and I know people who have as well. It didn't work out well for them. Maybe it's just where you are at in life.
Reject · 31-35, M
@MilayaDetka161 And I know people who have experienced the opposite and their best friend is their lover. That’s life. It’s different for everyone.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@Reject That's a great saying 👍
I will take that in mind