Advice needed from women loving women! Please.
Hiya! Ive found myself in a situation at 32 that i never thought id be in... i cant talk about it with my friend group so please help. Bare with me its long. Totally outing myself here
I met a girl online and she is so lovely! When we initially started speaking she informed me she was a stone top and i was a little unsure coz although im a bot... i like to play too! We had a chat and ofc i was like I'll respect boundaries and she said if we got comfortable that she would consider letting me play. I thought that was fair and went into this with no expectations regarding that and fully intending to respect boundaries.
We met up a few time's then things got sexual and sort of went as expected. Things were great. Shes great. Then... after 2 nights she was like "I'm super comfortable with you so lets try" i was like cool. But this is where things got a bit crazy. So i realised early on that she was very err tense and asked several times if she wanted me to stop but she insisted. Short story... i knew she was gold star but didnt know she had never... like never. So yup i broke her hymen and i was a little shocked but stayed calm. But i was not expecting it! We got through it and cleaned up and continued.
6 weeks in now and erm shes pretty much a pillow princess at this point and I'm way out of my depth... im pretty much a sub bot... i dont know what happened and its getting awkward. Shes very clingy and going a bit fast *even for women* shes the sweetest girl and i like her a lot but sexually now its not really me and i dont know what on earth to do about it? I dont wanna hurt this girl. She has past trauma and issues and i like her a lot but im struggling here. Anyone have any advice on this?
Please.
I met a girl online and she is so lovely! When we initially started speaking she informed me she was a stone top and i was a little unsure coz although im a bot... i like to play too! We had a chat and ofc i was like I'll respect boundaries and she said if we got comfortable that she would consider letting me play. I thought that was fair and went into this with no expectations regarding that and fully intending to respect boundaries.
We met up a few time's then things got sexual and sort of went as expected. Things were great. Shes great. Then... after 2 nights she was like "I'm super comfortable with you so lets try" i was like cool. But this is where things got a bit crazy. So i realised early on that she was very err tense and asked several times if she wanted me to stop but she insisted. Short story... i knew she was gold star but didnt know she had never... like never. So yup i broke her hymen and i was a little shocked but stayed calm. But i was not expecting it! We got through it and cleaned up and continued.
6 weeks in now and erm shes pretty much a pillow princess at this point and I'm way out of my depth... im pretty much a sub bot... i dont know what happened and its getting awkward. Shes very clingy and going a bit fast *even for women* shes the sweetest girl and i like her a lot but sexually now its not really me and i dont know what on earth to do about it? I dont wanna hurt this girl. She has past trauma and issues and i like her a lot but im struggling here. Anyone have any advice on this?
Please.
31-35, F
