What's wrong with polygamy?

People can get really bent out of shape about polygamy. As if it's some kind of moral crime. It's even illegal in developed countries.
But what is actually wrong with it between consenting adults?

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PoetryNEmotion · F

It takes a lot of maturity and openness and trust and communication. Because it goes against society's norms, it is bringing attention to it. Monogamy is what is considered "right and moral". Nothing is wrong with it.

MetalGreymon · 36-40, M

@PoetryNEmotion

Definitely. No way i could be ok with it but i don't see what could be morally wrong about it

PoetryNEmotion · F

@UnparalleledMonster: Answer why you couldn't be, please.

MetalGreymon · 36-40, M

@PoetryNEmotion:

I think i could have more than one wife,
But i know i couldn't be one of several husbands

PoetryNEmotion · F

@UnparalleledMonster: I believe the women have a harder time with this than men. People think it is all about sex. But it is not. One can hold many hands and still belong to one person.

MetalGreymon · 36-40, M

@PoetryNEmotion:

I think that's true if everybody in the relationship is on the same page. If you think you can "hold many hands" and "belong" to one person and they disagree then you are just a cheater

PoetryNEmotion · F

@UnparalleledMonster: I never cheat and I never would. It is...I cannot spell the word. Against my conscience.

MetalGreymon · 36-40, M

@PoetryNEmotion:

For sure. It's not cheating if everyone is ok with it

PoetryNEmotion · F

@UnparalleledMonster: It is called acceptance and trust. It is called exploration. And these states are difficult to achieve and to balance. It takes time and the right people to truly work.

MetalGreymon · 36-40, M

@PoetryNEmotion:

I think for most people the aversion to polygamy has less to do with trust than it does with jealousy and insecurity

PoetryNEmotion · F

@UnparalleledMonster: I agree. And people hesitate to be themselves in a society that watches closely.