I don't really know how relationships go so help???

I was talking about how I'm gonna get a job and my boyfriend said if I work I'll only need to for 1-2 months because in 1-2 months he'll be making good money and will send me stuff. I was like aw that's nice but I can get it myself. Then he was like no you can get it for yourself but you're not supposed to, you're my girl. I was saying that's sweet but its better if I work for myself. Then he was saying no you're my responsibility. You'll be taken care of as long as you're my girl, that's not up for debate😊. Again I said no and he said he feels worthless when he doesn't provide for me or protect me, that he doesn't feel like a man. I don't want him to provide for me I feel wayyy too guilty and I don't understand why he wants to 'provide for me'😩 How do I get him to listen because I also want a job because it's nice to be productive