Do you agree that you shouldn't get into a relationship until you can love/accept yourself?

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awww But it has to start somewhere. ;)

@DixieChick: lust honey. Connection. Chemistry. All that is your starting point.

@Maggimay: Well we can disagree. That is most definitely how it happens most of the time...but I know people, that as soon as they laid eyes on their spouse, they knew they were going to marry them. Call it whatever you want. Several couples fall into this category. I know a couple of couples that were only about 15 when they got married. And several older ones...perhaps a premonition....Love at first site does occasionally happen "honey" :)

And.....more times than not...a person with issues usually pulls the other down with them.... Yeah...I know a little bit about life. JS

@DixieChick:may i ask, are you in a relationship?

@Maggimay: Let's just say...I've been in a few relationships! AS I said, I know a little bit about life. I know what I speak of! You don't have to accept what I say...but most people that enter a relationship where one has low self esteem, the other one suffers in a big kind of way...just ask those that have...As for me, I know me too well...that is one thing I could not deal with...and another is jealousy for no reason at all. I despise jealousy even from my friends...I don't want it to have any place in my life. Besides all that...another person can NOT make one have a healthy self esteem. It has to come from within them. :)

@DixieChick: yes. I'm dealing with both of those issues and it is a living Hell at times.

@Ambroseguy80: I do feel for you buddy. The best of marriages are hard work to keep the fire burning, and with the stresses of life, one certainly does want to have to worry about keeping their spouse's self esteem up to par...

But thats something different. We all jealous in one way or another.

I am replying to her question. If you looking for perfection, in other words. Love, self esteem in one self you already set up for failure.

How do you see love?

For me. It's unconditional. My hubby has his faults. Oh does he. But so do I. Even with our faults, I see him as my partner for life. Together. He and his faults are what makes him. If I looked for someone to tick all my boxes. I'd probably be single till this day.

Out of all my friends, one couple got divorced because they clashed so badly and it was pointless. But the rest. Still together , together through everything. These days its easy to say, move on. People do. Look for perfect man/woman and die alone. No one is perfect. No love is perfect. Except that and you have a good starting point.

@DixieChick: exactly Dixie. I have likened my task sometimes to that of being an artificial lung for her esteem. And it does drag me down.

Thank you for your support my friend. :)

Naw honey...you are looking at it all wrong! I am ALL for "til death do us part"....What I am trying to say is I answered the question which was along the lines of should one get in a relationship until they love them self? People are gonna do what they are gonna do...but I am telling you that there will be some suffering for the one that does have a healthy self esteem. Choice is up to them. I can't hardly stand to work with people that have low self esteem. They take everything spoken as directed at them...and act so very childish...I don't have time or the patience for that. Life is too short and mine has been frankly too hard to even want to go there, to have to live with that kind of person. But we can agree to disagree..

@DixieChick: 😎 👍

Im cool with that 😊 Cant be arsed with essays right now tbh. Feeling crappy 😔

@Maggimay: You think my reply was an essay?

@DixieChick: no. I am not arsed with writting essays.

Really hope you feel better soon Maggie. :-(❤

@Maggimay: Bear with me just this once more...but I am not sure what you are saying. What do you mean "arsed with writing essays"? sorry for my being so slow...but I don't understand. :(

@NigelDoes: 😘 Thank you 😘 me too sweety. I do hope i feel better soon.

@DixieChick: i dont want to think right now.

@Maggimay: Oh..okay...sorry.. Feel better honey! :)

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@Maggimay: 😍😘