Do you look for this in your partner?
I often talk to my Nan and granddad about there 55year long marriage.
I ask them how they've managed to last this long.
And they both say it's simple. 1 they love each other but they also respect one another and they are each other best friends.
I asked they how they identified that in each other when they were younger and they said they didn't.
They met and was attracted, my grandad said he knew my Nan was the one but needed love whereas my Nan said my grandad was kind. Early on they saw they both had something the other didn't and taught each other those things and over the years continued doing that, my grandad sucked with money so he gave his pay check to his wife and she budgeted, and they always had.
My Nan due to bad experiences saw the bad in others, whereas my granddad didn't so it taught them both how to identify the scammers and the genuine, and allowed them to have a good social life. My grandparents to this day are so popular. I don't say all of this to show off. I'm sharing it because it seems others expect so much in their partner's and even when someone knows something about themselves they live in denial, and just end up making a mess of everything.
We are allowed to not be 100% best of ourselves that will come with time.
I ask them how they've managed to last this long.
And they both say it's simple. 1 they love each other but they also respect one another and they are each other best friends.
I asked they how they identified that in each other when they were younger and they said they didn't.
They met and was attracted, my grandad said he knew my Nan was the one but needed love whereas my Nan said my grandad was kind. Early on they saw they both had something the other didn't and taught each other those things and over the years continued doing that, my grandad sucked with money so he gave his pay check to his wife and she budgeted, and they always had.
My Nan due to bad experiences saw the bad in others, whereas my granddad didn't so it taught them both how to identify the scammers and the genuine, and allowed them to have a good social life. My grandparents to this day are so popular. I don't say all of this to show off. I'm sharing it because it seems others expect so much in their partner's and even when someone knows something about themselves they live in denial, and just end up making a mess of everything.
We are allowed to not be 100% best of ourselves that will come with time.
