Have you ever experienced harassment after rejecting someone's romantic advances?

Did you feel further validated in your initial instinct to reject them? Were you open to entertaining them out of guilt? How did you handle it?

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Mamapolo2016 · F

When I was very young and thought reason worked with everyone. He proposed after a half-dozen dates, I gently declined, and eventually my father had to make him go away.

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 Aww...it was love at first sight. For him.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@SW-User If you love someone you don't badger them. That's self-love. "I want this, therefore you must give it to me."

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mamapolo2016 Like "Go away"?

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Beatbox34 No. My Dad was very firm. In a way that could make you think if you didn't go away he WOULD make you go away.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mamapolo2016 Ahh I see. That's less scary but still scary.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Beatbox34 That's the whole idea!

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 That's what dad's are for.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mamapolo2016 Maybe I'll be that kind of a dad if I have a kid.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Beatbox34 You have to start early, setting it up so if your kid wants you to step in, they'll ask you.

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 So you had a good relationship with dad? You could talk to him if you needed him and all that?

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mamapolo2016 No I know that. I would actually be the opposite of mine who was never there for me.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@SW-User Yep. My dad was stellar. Not a guard dog (unless you needed one). A shepherd.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Beatbox34 That must be awful.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mamapolo2016 Nah it's okay. I got used to a lot of stuff. I had to fall and learn a lot in life by myself.

SW-User

I feel you@Beatbox34

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Beatbox34 🤗 You seem to have done well.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mamapolo2016 Thank you 🤗

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 I wish my dad had been like yours!

Mamapolo2016 · F

@SW-User I wish everybody's dad had been like mine. 🤗