How to make my gf happy a bit?

@BalmyNitesok but I want her to be

@Thexboxoneguy1991 That’s as maybe, but if you fall into the realm of trying to make someone happy, you may easily put your own well-being & happiness second - & although she might like that initially, no woman ultimately wants a man who would not value himself - so just be happy & healthy in yourself & she should find happiness in you - if not, don’t change yourself

@BalmyNites yeah I should focus on myself

@Thexboxoneguy1991 Absolutely! If you focus on yourself, get fit & eat healthy & go do some hobbies you enjoy, widen your interests & fill your life with good things which make you a more complete person & not just centred on her - then the opposite will work & she will sit up & take notice of what a good man she has & work on her own self to have a happy, healthy relationship with you 💜 If she doesn’t, then there may be underlying issues in her personality or her past which she will need to get help with - you cannot do that for her

@BalmyNites ok but I am fit

@Thexboxoneguy1991 I meant improve yourself, work on keeping healthy - fitness is not a static thing, it requires regular maintenance

I think you’re missing my point - you need to spend more time & effort on YOU, not the other person

@BalmyNites yeah but I work a lot

@Thexboxoneguy1991 Spending more time on yourself doesn’t mean just the physical - mentally put yourself first

@BalmyNites yeah how?

@Thexboxoneguy1991 Stop focusing on her & trying to ‘make her happy’