I'm supposed to go on a date tomorrow evening...

And I'm [b][i]anxious af.[/i][/b]

He's the guy that wanted to hurry and meet me. The one that wanted a full body pic. I didn't appreciate being asked that but... Y'know, I don't want to mark someone off just for asking. He didn't pressure me either.

We're supposed to meet tomorrow but I'm soo nervous. Nervous he'll kidnap me or worse. But then I remind myself that I'm overthinking... I'm smarter than I give myself credit for.

I won't leave my drink alone with him. I won't leave with him. I won't be alone with him. Maybe go somewhere else afterward to do some shopping so he can't follow me home but then again, maybe that too is an irrational thought.

Oh my gosh I'm so anxious I feel like I'm going to barf. Calm down, Jupe... Caaaalm dowwwn 😣🤢

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

Okies. I was dating for a few years.. keep some rules in mind..

1) never meet anyone you feel unsure about. This is called having good radar.. it will keep you safe.. If you aren't sure keep talking to them until you feel safe.
2) even if you feel safe never ever meet anyone on your own.. meet in a public place, with lots of people around. dont pick him up from the station, don't ride in the same car together..
3) make sure you tell someone where you are going.. and ideally have them call you or text after 30 mins or so to check you are ok.. if you aren't ok have a code word and they can come get you.

A good way to think about this is.. are yo more nervous of 'this' person than anyone else youve met? If so don't do it!!! Always listen to your gut feelings..

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@Adaydreambeliever This is all very useful, thank you 🤗💞

twiigss · M

@Adaydreambeliever [quote]If you aren't sure keep talking to them until you feel safe. [/quote]

This is something all women used to do back in the mid 1990's. The last woman I was talking to on a dating site, she was up and ready to meet next day, and I'm sitting here thinking, well..... wait a minute. Shouldn't there be more time to talk first before we meet?

But I think a lot of it is coming down to, well there's only so much we can talk about, and they think well we need to move this step faster? I dunno. It really threw me for a loop when this girl was like, okay we talked for 2 hours, meet, NOW! That's what it felt like anyway.

And normally, when a guy asks to meet, after 3 weeks of talking, she disappears completely. That's how it used to be anyway. You had to wait for her to bring up meeting in person, or you had to ask, but not in a way that she would think was too forceful.

I guess this is partly why I don't even try to date anymore. You can't win. Hi, I'm an honest and nice guy, let's chat. Girl: Uhhh I gotta go. I give up!