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Have you discussed race in your relationship?

In all my relationships there has been a discussion with me about race. Me being black. Means it's scary to bring me home.
Even in a black community it was about my hair.
Long good
Skin tone: maybe too dark.
If you're dark are you smart or rich?
Will I fit into the culture. Being Caribbean the African guys I was seeing decided they couldn't marry me.
And the Caribbean born men deemed me too English to really understand Caribbean culture.
My Turkish partner wanted us to be together but his mum asked if I'd convert to Islam and I said no but if we had kids they would learn of both sides and get to chose. Big fat no no!

My Asian ex kept pushing me to get a better job, when we spoke he started suggesting my job would mean he would no longer need to work and he could stay at home. But that would be the compromise because his family would disown him if we wed!
Ugh!

My Irish boyfriend well his parents were old and he just said that they would find it very uncomfortable.

All very off putting conversations which made me realise that I had a lot to lose by taking that leap of faith in someone considering these things in the first place.

Ever had to deal with this nonsense?
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SW-User
Means it's scary to bring me home. !

What phucken backward country do you live in
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@SW-User where have you been this past year or two?
SW-User
@Mellowgirl I come from a land downunder
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@SW-User Australia I'm told isn't the most cosmopolitan place. People of colour struggle
SW-User
@Mellowgirl What colour are native Australians ?
SW-User
@Mellowgirl I'm a white Australian, with 2 native Americans on my back
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@Mellowgirl NO RACIST questions, answers or comments will ever been accepted at

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@SW-User if I found articles and present them they would provide evidence that the indigenous people of Australia have fought and struggled to live peacefully the same as what happens anywhere else that has been invaded.
That's not what this post was about.
I asked about where race was discussed in your intimate relationship. If you have an agenda to make this something else I'm sure there are plenty of posts that cater to that.
My uncle who lived and worked in Australia said that he did struggle in certain parts and although he wasn't ever attacked he was dismissed quite a lot, and it was only his colleague who was also his neighbour that lived a few doors down that helped him through his time there.
A lot of the colleagues just weren't interested until the last 6 months of him being there. Weird!