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Have you discussed race in your relationship?

In all my relationships there has been a discussion with me about race. Me being black. Means it's scary to bring me home.
Even in a black community it was about my hair.
Long good
Skin tone: maybe too dark.
If you're dark are you smart or rich?
Will I fit into the culture. Being Caribbean the African guys I was seeing decided they couldn't marry me.
And the Caribbean born men deemed me too English to really understand Caribbean culture.
My Turkish partner wanted us to be together but his mum asked if I'd convert to Islam and I said no but if we had kids they would learn of both sides and get to chose. Big fat no no!

My Asian ex kept pushing me to get a better job, when we spoke he started suggesting my job would mean he would no longer need to work and he could stay at home. But that would be the compromise because his family would disown him if we wed!
Ugh!

My Irish boyfriend well his parents were old and he just said that they would find it very uncomfortable.

All very off putting conversations which made me realise that I had a lot to lose by taking that leap of faith in someone considering these things in the first place.

Ever had to deal with this nonsense?
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hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
I have never discussed race with my family. We are a multiracial family with Native, White and Asian members. No one cares what color skin the other person has.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 wanna adopt me?
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
@Mellowgirl No problem. Are you in Canada?
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 no UK! But it's a short walk 😂lol
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
@Mellowgirl I have relatives over there so.....