The moment you check a dating app you’re on & see a “like” or message from a really cute or hot guy...

@NewBeginnings7790 It’s very difficult to find someone you can make a connection with. Often times, even if there’s a mutual attraction, if the conversation isn’t engaging, I lose interest.

@marsbar I could usually tell by the first line if it was going to something that peaked my interest.

I did however find a bow really good friend on a dating site years ago. We talked a lot about life and kids and such, went on one date and it was pretty mutual that we both only wanted to stay friends. 7+ years later and he is probably the only guy who I trust. He is also someone who made me realize women and men can truly be just friends without wanting it to ever develop into anything more.

@NewBeginnings7790 Oh that’s nice that you made a good friend.

I’m the same way. I’ll know right away if I’ll be interested in the conversation.

@marsbar I also met someone who I fell in love with, and I haven’t gotten up since...

@NewBeginnings7790 How long ago was that?

@marsbar It’ll be 7 years in August.
(That I’ve loved him, not that it’s reciprocated)
🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

@NewBeginnings7790 Oh wow. That’s a long time. So does he only like you as a friend?

@marsbar It’s a different guy than the one who is a good friend.

It’s a back and forth push and pull on and off torture type thing. I’ve always loved him but we’ve never been in a full on relationship.

@NewBeginnings7790 Yes, I know he’s not the friend you mentioned. 😊

So basically he knows he has you wrapped around his finger but won’t commit? Does he just treat you like an FWB despite knowing how you feel about him?

@marsbar Basically yup...

Sometimes it’s really good and I can feel the layers of walls and crumbling in each of us.
And sometimes (like now) I can feel the bridges between us burning down...

@NewBeginnings7790 I’m sorry. You know you deserve better right? Seven years is a long time for him to take you for granted. What’s worse is if he’s seeing other women. Don’t let him use you like a doormat.

@marsbar Yeah. There’s something about him and when we’re together it’s a magic unlike anything I’ve ever known. He has a way with words, and always knows just how to make me laugh. Plus he’s got this amazingly huge heart. Looking at in his eyes makes me completely melt.

We have both seen other people at times throughout the 7 years.

Right now I think is one of those times for him. It’s hurts a ton when we don’t see each other, but I know I can’t make him feel something he doesn’t. I know I can’t control the outcome of forever. (Even though I forget sometimes and I try) I leave it up to fait and mother moon.

@NewBeginnings7790 It sounds so complicated & heartbreaking. If he can make you swoon like that, I imagine he does the same for other women.

It seems like you’d crumble into pieces if he wasn’t in your life. So I wish you the strength to make the decisions that are right for you. 💗

@marsbar It is definitely complicated and heartbreaking. Only time will tell. Whatever happens I know is what is meant to happen so either way, I know I’ll be okay once again. It’s not the first time I’ve fallen, and I know now just what it takes to pull myself back together

@NewBeginnings7790 Ok, that’s good. 😇