Is it possible to misunderstand care for aggressive control?

If a person slowly erodes your confidence in your ability to make safe decisions, is it controlling?
If a person makes frequent jokes about you better not having the opposite gender in your home, is it a threat?
If a person demands intel on your day to day movements whilst briefly detailing theirs, does that mean they don't trust you?
If a person refuses to introduce you to friends and family does that mean they are waiting for the right moment?