Would you forgive your significant other if they cheated?

I love this mindstruggle!!❤

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@ladycae: your comments - it's easy online to be an asshole ned.

you were not the object of that sentence, i could have just as easily inserted any name in there and it would not have changed the meaning of the sentence. feeling even more guilty?

@nedkelly: Well you've always been considerate to me ever since EP, thanks Ned. ⭐

I'm in the same boat. I could forgive but doubt I could stay. The trust would be obliterated.

@GivingUpGhosts: Whenever they'd leave the house by themselves, I imagine it'd always be in the back of the other persons mind if they're really going to where they claim to be. Nope, I'd end the relationship. Unforgivable IMO

I get that. Loneliness hurts less than heartache.

idk loneliness hurts a lot too. especially when you do care about someone

Very much so. Only if they care about you in return though is it worth any pain.

For the person you did forgive, what were your lives like after that? What made you decide to no longer forgive?

@GivingUpGhosts: knowing myself I would continuously forgive him. How I look at it is "well we're not married". I would just hope he wouldn't.

So if you are in a committed relationship with somebody but not married, you could forgive them continuously? If you were married would your mind be different?

Also, do you think you would ever cheat if they cheated on you first?

Thank you for sharing your input! Much appreciated.

@GivingUpGhosts: cheating in marriage to me is unacceptable. I wouldn't cheat just because he cheated.

Ha! No doubt.

Would you forgive if it happened multiple times? Or give them a one-time chance to make things right?

Just once

Would it depend on the circumstances? What form of cheating do you think you could forgive, and what form is a deal breaker for you?

Why does anyone cheat? I suppose it could be the ol' "they got drunk and hooked up with a random" or maybe it was because they were mad at you and trying to get revenge on something you said/did. Maybe they no longer feel an emotional connection with you and were seeking it elsewhere. Or maybe they just have commitment issues? The possibilities are endless.

@GivingUpGhosts: well.... maybe.... no....... maybe?

@boldtimer: That's very unfortunate. To have the person you love cheat on you is enough, but to have it be with someone you considered your friend is downright devastating. I'm sorry to hear that but I hope you are both in a better place now. Thank you for sharing your story.