someone please give me advice

I met this guy not too long ago we’ve been hooking up since december and talking almost everyday but lately he’s been distant and was ignoring me or when i would reach out to him he would short text me. and it’s been like this for the past two weeks and i expressed to him that i felt the friendship was becoming one sided. we only will talk if i reach out and it’s like i gotta beg to even hang out. so we talked and he told me he recently got back into contact with an ex not too long and he now has feelings for her even though him and i have been hooking up and have been getting closer aside from just fwb. and he asked me if he changed could we turn this into a true friendship and i told him yes. because he said i was one of the best friends he’s ever had so far and he’s never had someone show him unconditional love and it freaked him out. then last night we got into a mini disagreement over him just doing the same thing, constantly ignoring me and just making me feel unappreciated. this has been the biggest issue for us and so he takes me off of snapchat so i call him and we talk and everything cool then i go to text him and i see that he blocked my number. so i ended up getting into contact with him and he told me that he wasn’t going to have me blocked for long and that he didn’t like how he was constantly hurting me but this has only been a rough week for us it’s never been like this the entire time. and he texted me that he understands where i’m coming from after we got off the phone and then never replied back to my last text message

he’s not a bad guy but i don’t think he thinks before he does things. he even said he acknowledges that the things he does is rude but he still does it

can i get some advice on what to do or how to go about this situation?

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It sounds as if you have more feelings for him than merely a FWB. When you get sexually involved with a friend, it's hard not to get emotionally tangled up in it. For your own mental health, stop texting and contacting him. I know it's hard to do since you're supposed to be friends but, you need to put the friendship on pause. Distance will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. If the friendship was meant to last, you'll both find a way to make it work at some point down the road. But for now, you need to get yourself under control. Allow him to explore the relationship he believes he wants. Demanding he pay attention to you because you're friends, is only going to make him feel suffocated and he'll keep blocking you. Your actions are guaranteeing that your friendship won't survive. Back off of him and find something (or someone) else to do with your time. You have other friends, spend time with them.

Lostinconfusion · 22-25, F

@SW-User yeah i’m going to take a week long break from him and just think about everything and in that week i feel it’s time to cut the cord then it’s done but i’m pretty sure i know i want this to end. i just hate the thought of losing friends

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@Lostinconfusion I get it. It's hard to lose friends but, unfortunately, you're going to find that as you move through life, there are people that aren't going to be with you for the long haul. Whether it's you cutting them out, or they cutting you out, it happens. You'll find that after a while, when you've put enough time between you, and you no longer have emotional ties to that person, you can see the toxicity in the relationship.

As far as that guy is concerned, you need to give it more than a week. Let him contact you. Usually an ex is "an ex" for a reason. It will probably take him longer than a week to realize that he made a mistake getting back with her but, even if it works out with her, he's uncomfortable atm because you two haven't just been friends. It's evident the sexual element in your relationship is a problem for him. He's made it clear he wants to spend his time with someone else and, he's not capable of maintaining a non-sexual relationship with you, at least, not for now.

Lostinconfusion · 22-25, F

@SW-User yeah we talked two days ago in his car and he was telling me about he wanted to keep the friendship but he felt he didn’t have the energy to be a friend to me. and it’s like i don’t care who he likes or who he wants to talk to that’s not my personal business that’s his. i would never stop him from being with who he wants and then he tells me he wasn’t hiding but at the same time he was hiding it & was trying to protect me and then he would question me about who i’m going to hang with and how long i’ve known them or where i’ve been. just a rollercoaster but this has been our worse week in our friendship

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@Lostinconfusion Yeah, it's a jumble of emotions for both of you. Don't tell him if you've met someone else or are hanging with another guy. It's none of his business, especially since he can't seem to find a way to talk to you normally and make your friendship with each other work atm. Back off of him and take the space that YOU need from him.

Lostinconfusion · 22-25, F

@SW-User i’m definitely going to take a break from
him and if contacts me then cool if not then cool. life goes on it’s painful to lose friendships but i cannot allow myself to get stuck in this mindset lol