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There must be some mistake.
Playing hard to get is now a strategy of the distant past. It was common in my mother's day; she was born in 1921. Right up until about the 1960's, it was normal for the majority of men to have a double standard; they assumed that all women were either morally good or bad, with nothing in between. If a woman said no, it meant she was good - very discriminating about who she said yes to, accepting only a man who was a serious prospect for future marriage. If a woman said yes, it automatically meant she was a tart and therefore loose or bad, someone to use but not treat seriously or with respect. This put women in an invidious position; they were obliged to play hard-to-get in order to be treated with respect.
This attitude no longer applies.
Now the law is that if a woman says no she means no.
A woman is very foolish if she plays games with her yeses and nos, and it is my belief that to do so would now be extremely rare. If a man shows signs of having double standards, most women will want nothing to do with him. If he tries to fake being egalitarian, she will soon find him out and drop him like a live coal.
Playing hard to get is now a strategy of the distant past. It was common in my mother's day; she was born in 1921. Right up until about the 1960's, it was normal for the majority of men to have a double standard; they assumed that all women were either morally good or bad, with nothing in between. If a woman said no, it meant she was good - very discriminating about who she said yes to, accepting only a man who was a serious prospect for future marriage. If a woman said yes, it automatically meant she was a tart and therefore loose or bad, someone to use but not treat seriously or with respect. This put women in an invidious position; they were obliged to play hard-to-get in order to be treated with respect.
This attitude no longer applies.
Now the law is that if a woman says no she means no.
A woman is very foolish if she plays games with her yeses and nos, and it is my belief that to do so would now be extremely rare. If a man shows signs of having double standards, most women will want nothing to do with him. If he tries to fake being egalitarian, she will soon find him out and drop him like a live coal.
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@cupidnpsyche By definition, 50% of the population is under the average 100 IQ mark - therefore at least half the population of both boys and girls, women and men, are dumb.
As for the building traction and heat - I don't think any young male needs that. They already have such an overabundance of libido that it causes them nearly constant pain and stress.
Girls do need wooing to build their desire and readiness - but that is [i]not[/i] the same thing as playing hard to get. Young boys are too dumb, inexperienced and immature to know what girls need - so such a strategy wouldn't work anyway. If the girl says no, and they are nice boys (because they accept no for an answer), they don't stick around to get to know her; they go elsewhere and ask the next girl, and the next and the next until they strike "lucky" - their luck, not a girl's.
Things are no longer the way they were in 1950's Hollywood films.
As for the building traction and heat - I don't think any young male needs that. They already have such an overabundance of libido that it causes them nearly constant pain and stress.
Girls do need wooing to build their desire and readiness - but that is [i]not[/i] the same thing as playing hard to get. Young boys are too dumb, inexperienced and immature to know what girls need - so such a strategy wouldn't work anyway. If the girl says no, and they are nice boys (because they accept no for an answer), they don't stick around to get to know her; they go elsewhere and ask the next girl, and the next and the next until they strike "lucky" - their luck, not a girl's.
Things are no longer the way they were in 1950's Hollywood films.