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Contemplating Divorce, Am I doing the right thing?

Just for some background information:
My husband and I have been together 8 years, married for 5 years. Same old story, it was great in the beginning and then something changed. Last year, I found emails he sent to escorts, wanting to set up appointments. I completely flipped out and immediately confronted him. He said that he never met with any one of them and that he would never again contact them. As you could assume, my trust in him completely disappeared, and this past year I have been trying to give him another chance to trust him again. Parts of the year were going good until I looked at our monthly phone bill, I just had a feeling in my gut something wasn't right. My gut was correct, He has been contacting different escorts by phone and text throughout the year. February, a few times in July (once, the day before we left on vacation), and just as recently as last week. I feel like enough is enough, you know? I'm not feeling like I should give him anymore chances when he already lied to me and did the thing he explicitly said he wouldn't. I saved every piece of evidence I found and already opened up my own checking account. I just don't know if I'm ready for my whole life to change, but I guess I don't have much of a choice. Is there any other way this can go down? Is there anything else I can do at this point? Advice would be much appreciated.
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Ynotisay · M
Sort of hard to offer advice without having much context.
Want to save the marriage? Approach him honestly and openly and find out why he's doing what he's doing. He may have some kink, that has nothing to do with you, that he's embarrassed to share.
That said, honesty is everything in a relationship.
In regards to your life changing? Life is always changing. It's also a solo, a short one at that, whether we're with someone or not. Wanting to be with someone is a very different animal than needing to be with someone. I have a feeling you'd do just fine on your own. And you can believe me or not but a whole world can open up post-divorce that has nothing to do with being in a relationship.
Good luck.