I'm 33yrs old, single and do not want to get married and I can't have kids. Am I worthless?
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my first thought is 'not enough data to tell'. and then my second is 'did you get a liberal arts degree? or can you do hard sciences?'. and then I stop typing that in and backspace cuz I figure it'll offend many. and then I put it back, anyway.
there's much to life. it's very difficult to truly be completely worthless. just because you aren't useful in the way someone or some people want you to be doesn't mean that you're useless.
there's much to life. it's very difficult to truly be completely worthless. just because you aren't useful in the way someone or some people want you to be doesn't mean that you're useless.
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a taoist sotry that fits. I thought it was better in the version I remember.
The Useless Tree ~
Hui Tzu said to Chuang, “I have a big tree, the kind they call a “stinktree.” The trunk is so distorted, so full of knots, no one can get a straight plank out of it. The branches are so crooked you cannot cut them up in any way that makes sense.”
“There it stands beside the road. No carpenter will even look at it. Such is your teaching – big and useless.”
Chuang Tzu replied, “Have you ever watched the wildcat crouching, watching his prey. The prey leaps this way, and that way, high and low, and at last lands in the trap. And have you seen the Yak? Great as a thundercloud, he stands in his might. Big? Sure, but he can’t catch mice!”
“So for your big tree, no use? Then plant it in the wasteland, in emptiness. Walk idly around it, rest under its shadow. No axe or bill prepares its end. No one will ever cut it down.”
“Useless? You should worry!”
The Useless Tree ~
Hui Tzu said to Chuang, “I have a big tree, the kind they call a “stinktree.” The trunk is so distorted, so full of knots, no one can get a straight plank out of it. The branches are so crooked you cannot cut them up in any way that makes sense.”
“There it stands beside the road. No carpenter will even look at it. Such is your teaching – big and useless.”
Chuang Tzu replied, “Have you ever watched the wildcat crouching, watching his prey. The prey leaps this way, and that way, high and low, and at last lands in the trap. And have you seen the Yak? Great as a thundercloud, he stands in his might. Big? Sure, but he can’t catch mice!”
“So for your big tree, no use? Then plant it in the wasteland, in emptiness. Walk idly around it, rest under its shadow. No axe or bill prepares its end. No one will ever cut it down.”
“Useless? You should worry!”
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Quietbeauty · 41-45, F
Yes of course
gurlwatcher22 · 61-69, M
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Quietbeauty · 41-45, F
Just got rejected again tonight
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Quietbeauty · 41-45, F
Relationship, but get this he asked before we part could he get a naked picture of me! Wtf???
SatyrService · M
wants a trophy,,, and welll you know...
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@Quietbeauty: aww tosser who just wanted to use you for his own kicks.. you saw through that. I think that's the worry.. men who hear you dont want to get married or have kids can tend to think this means you are up for giving them thrills .. nope it doesnt mean that at all you are still a person with feelings. U seem pretty smart.. please know that the rejection is not about YOU it's about them wanting free rides and getting grumpy when you say no..
walabby · M
Heel no.. There's all sorts of things you can do that are totally worthwhile.. !
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lorne13 · 61-69, M
beauty is never worthless
DisillusionedWaves · 26-30
No you're not worthless at all.
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Hell no, why?? 😦
Quietbeauty · 41-45, F
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@Quietbeauty: Don't worry, more and more people don't want kids, if you love someone, kids can be important, but if it turns into the most important, it's a marriage based on wrong principles, in my opinion at least.
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thinkincubes · 41-45
true enough, there's plenty of guys like that too... especially past a certain age
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@Quietbeauty: you make a very good point.. it isnt just women who want kids... many men do too.. but not all.. I am not suggesting you date my older son lol but he doesnt want kids.. never has
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