Why do people divorce ?

How do you cope ?

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They divorce mostly because of selfishness and an unwillingness to put forth the effort that's REQUIRED in every marriage.
How do you cope? True Grit. You gut it out. I was miserable every day for nearly 3 years, but it DOES go away.

Magenta · F

@RogueLoner For the most part I agree. Although abusive relationships are an exception. Long term takes effort, strength, total commitment. Past all the romantic illusions.

Also.. there are always two sides to the story.

RogueLoner · M

@Magenta🙂 I wasn't favoring or defending one partner or gender over another. Of course there are always two sides. It takes two. BOTH have to compromise. Both have to commit. Both have to sacrifice. Otherwise, one will try to dominate the other until the other says "enough". There is from where the abuse stems. When one or the other , both or neither is willing to share the good and bad for the long term. From what I can see, all anyone cares about these days is sex.
When two givers get together, it has a chance. Unfortunately, it seems the givers are always attracted to the takers. And in today's narcissistic, self centered, instant gratification society … most are takers. Takers with takers. That is a potentially volatile ... ummmm ... "relationship".

Past all the "romantic illusions" … how true. 😏

Magenta · F

@RogueLoner Oh I knew you weren't. 😘

From what I can see, all anyone cares about these days is sex.
And in today's narcissistic, self centered, instant gratification society … most are takers.

Spot on.

RogueLoner · M

@Magenta Remember the day when "date" meant getting to know each other?

Magenta · F

@RogueLoner Oh indeed I do. 😌