I Have To Say About Dating And Relationships

I am glad.Because i didn't fall for a narcissist. He used all the techniques and tricks to make me fall for his fake charm and love bombings.He failed terribly.It took me almost 10 years to learn how to make myself a priority.😒
All those years, i felt that i have to be someone to impress someone.But,i pity that OLD ME, who constantly tried to please others, in doing so, she forgot her needs and wants.
The thing about this narcissist is, i can see through his soul. He thought he is genius and making me fall with his compliments and undivided attention. But that poor soul, didn't know, that i had been through hell for 13 years. I can easily spot it out(i am not boasting).I have honed my empathetic nature.
He couldn't pull off even one of his tricks.
I am sharing it here, because i know there are many of you, who is laying awake in the night, questioning whether you are enough or not. Questioning you are worthy of his/her love and attention.
LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING, WHOEVER MAKING ME FEEL HURT, CONFUSED, SAD DOESN'T WORTH YOUR TIME OR ENERGY.Just try to self reflect on your choices. Why you kept allowing such personalities? Maybe you have unresolved childhood wounds?
JUST know this, Narcissist will never let you live your life peacefully.THEY DON'T DESERVE YOUR TIME AND ENERGY
LOVE YOU ALL🤗❤️

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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

I agree. I have experienced all that first hand and I learned to keep my feelings in the dump now. I'm more cold now than I used to be. I can't empathize for people but I prefer to keep a guard up.

Thank you so much for this post. I really am sorry you had to deal with someone like that as well. It hurts really bad and I guess its a lesson for all of us in the end.

I wish you the best and hope you never have to meet people like this ever anymore.

CHARARE · 36-40, F

@Beatbox34I am sorry for you too.It is totally normal to be cold and guarded up.It is initial stage of your healing. But guess what? The person who has caused you heartache do not have any remorse.They just use people.They see us as an object.It is not easy for a healthy human beings like us to even imagine that.
I know you are angry, sad and feeling numb. I hope eventually you see, how amazing you are. You have a big heart that's the very reason you got used.But sometimes, we may have unhealed childhood wounds like i have mentioned above, which needed to be resolved inorder to lead a healthy, beautiful life.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@CHARARE I agree with every word you said. That's what makes them narcissists in the first place because they lack empathy and have remorse for their actions. I know it now that I was used. I mean I knew it much earlier but was manipulated to feel I wasn't. Actions speak louder than words and in the due course of time I realized what was true.

In time, I may heal but these people really play a number on the people they prey. I have a lot of pain in my heart and I know it won't last forever.

Thank you again for this encouraging post 💙

CHARARE · 36-40, F

@Beatbox34 😞 I understand how you feel right now.It is not easy for us to do the same to anyother human beings.They are energy vampires.They have so many supplies to keep them occupied.But in contrary we are old fashioned people, who would like to remain loyal even when we know the other person is not loyal at all.I am so sorry. Divert yourself.Make yourself busy. The more we think about them, the more intense the pain is. After all our soul have gone through, we really don't deserve to be sad all the time.
i know everyone heal at their own pace.Sending you healing vibes dear.

Interestingguy · 36-40, M

Very true

CHARARE · 36-40, F

@Interestingguy Thank you🤗

Interestingguy · 36-40, M

@CHARARE your welcome
And just be who you are

ninjavu · 51-55, M

I am glad for you too. 👍️

CHARARE · 36-40, F

@ninjavu ❤️

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