I ain't changing a damn thing homie

@Tinkles grow together, but not go into one with the expectations of changing the other. That's an easy way to a toxic relationship- dating someone who's traits you don't like or see as "bad" with the expectation of altering them. Not healthy.

@Lucyy You are wise beyond your years 👍

@Lucyy that is true but you should go into a relationship expecting to change and be changed

@Tinkles that comes with any passing of time, even if you aren't with somebody. Change should not come with intent from your partner though unless you specifically ask them to help you with a problem (ie asking them to help you stop smoking). But to go into a relationship thinking "he's a bad boy but I can fix that" is absolutely toxic. It puts pressure on the other person to change and causes the person attempting to change them to grow annoyed with their habits because they didn't agree with them to begin with. If you're with someone it shouldn't be so you can turn them into what you want them to be in an attempt to live up to some unattainable idea of perfection. It should be going in knowing that there will be bumps, knowing that there will be things you don't like, and being willing to compromise and work through them rather than simply changing the things you don't like about somebody else. Growth needs to come on both ends- which also means you need to go into a relationship KNOWING you can't change someone else simply to make them what you want.

@SalttyDawg thank you! 🤗