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My bestfriend is talking to my ex. And it makes me feel bad or idk

Please tell me if I am not just over thinking things.
A bit of context.

We dated for few months. It ended badly. He wrecked the whole squad. Insulted me, insulted her, insulted friends. Blamed her for spreading lies about him ( she even cried because of it ). Made me feel so bad I was actually sick.
But we all decided last year that we have had enough and he was out of our life. We all told him we forgive him for whatever he did. And we are sorry if we harmed him in any way.

He also told me that he liked her at first and would have dated her if she had wanted to.
Which I told her.
And right after we decided that it was over, he posted a lengthy essay on how she was the most important person he met that year using a nickname pertaining to her.
[ he told me it was about me. And his friend told her wtf that was about you I helped him write it ]
Which again, I told her.
I tell her everything.

She just told me she talks to him now because a year passed, and it is alright now and that he was a friend ( they only really knew each other because of me ) and asked me whether it bothered me.
I said that it frankly did a lot, but that I am in no position to tell with whom she should talk or not. To which she replied that she was not asking my approval, just an opinion, because he was a friend and she would be keep up talking to him.

Do I even have the right to feel bad about this ? I don't even feel bad about him.
I just feel really disappointed by her.
Idk, like I feel betrayed for some reason ?
Am I over thinking this and should go for a walk and be less of a drama queen?
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Fernie · F
I was pretty much ok with her talking to him after a year. Then she lost me when she said she was not asking for your approval...just an opinion. I think that was BS. She most ;likely had an ulterior motive for asking you. I just think it wasn't nice. In your life..."best friends" will come and go. Every one will be a lesson. If I were in your place...been there more than once...I would be bothered a LOT thinking they were talking about me...try not to let it take up too much of your time...this will pass
Peapod · 61-69, F
@Fernie I hate to say this, but I too was thinking there [i]could[/i] be an ulterior motive considering she [i]knows[/i] how her friend feels. I had a very close friend do this to me in high school and it turned out she had hooked up with my guy. Worse, he was still [i]my[/i] guy and not an ex. I was pretty devastated at the time because of her betrayal, even more than his. He ended up treating her like trash too, but I never felt close to her again after that.
Fernie · F
@Peapod Let's face it...we were idiots in high school when it came to relationships,. "I don't like you anymore...I have a new best friend" I felt the pain of betrayal more than once. I think her ulterior motive was to twist the knife...rub it in. I think she is mean, and your advice.."Time to find another "best friend" is spot on
Peapod · 61-69, F
@Fernie All true. I would never pick those same kind of people in adulthood.

I did have a close friend in later life that thought it was OK to chat with my ex on Facebook, even after telling her I was not OK with it. I was still initiating divorce and she knew all the reasons why. I figured out she simply wasn't the person I thought she was and we went our separate ways. Her talking to my ex was not the reason, but more a symptom that our friendship was no longer working. It happens.
Fernie · F
@Peapod She was no friend. Glad you kicked her to the curb