Advice? Opinions? Comments?

I started dating a guy in July of 2015. We broke in January 2019 but haven’t stopped talking and hanging out since. I had to block him yesterday finally because I am done with his shit. Our relationship wasn’t the greatest. He’s 28 and only worked under the table a handful of times while we were together, he doesn’t have a drivers license or wants to get one, no education or the desire to get one either. He constantly made excuses, lied to me about the littlest shit and put me down all the time.. even though he was “just joking”. It held me back a lot in life. But, at the the same time we are so close and we’re together for a while and we had some really good memories too. I got really close with his family but when we broke up I never even said a thing to them, I just never went back over again. It’s been hard accepting hell never change.. I loved him a lot, I know he loves me but.. actions speak a lot louder then words. I know I deserve better in life now. Give me your opinions, comments, advice... please!

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Threepio Best Comment

[i][b][quote]I know I deserve better in life now[/quote][/b][/i]

In the circles I run in...we have a saying:
"You can't fix the problem until you recognize there is a problem."

Your statement above indicates that you have identified the problem (several actually). My guess is that his parents basically are enabling him (his lifestyle). This is common these days in our society as many "millennials" remain in the family home due to economics. Unfortunately what often happens is what you are seeing here. The family unit supports his lifestyle (coddling him, providing for him) vice encouraging him to leave the nest. And so... he takes the path of least resistance and lets them provide for him.

The future: since he works 'under the table'... he has NO CREDIT RATING.. so he will not be able to borrow for a car or ANYTHING else of value, like a home for instance. He is not contributing towards his social security account, so his retirement fund is NIL. If he gets hurt and becomes disabled, he is not contributing (social sec disability) so the best he could hope for is SSI (and it sucks to be anyone on SSI). He has no workman's compensation.. so if he gets a bad cut at work...he pays for it.

[quote][i][b]He constantly made excuses, lied to me about the littlest shit and put me down all the time.. even though he was “just joking”. It held me back a lot in life. [/b][/i][/quote] He may be a guy you have great memories with, but EVERY ONE of those things you mentioned in the sentence above is a blaring RED FLAG when it comes to your future together.

There is another saying I firmly believe in:
[b]"If you always do what you have always done... then you will always get what you always got" [/b] So if you want something different as you travel down the road of life, you have to do something different.

You are young, you have a lot of time to "reinvent" yourself. You seem to know what you need to do. So decide what life you really want and just say no to everything that isn't that.