Advice? Opinions? Comments?

I started dating a guy in July of 2015. We broke in January 2019 but haven’t stopped talking and hanging out since. I had to block him yesterday finally because I am done with his shit. Our relationship wasn’t the greatest. He’s 28 and only worked under the table a handful of times while we were together, he doesn’t have a drivers license or wants to get one, no education or the desire to get one either. He constantly made excuses, lied to me about the littlest shit and put me down all the time.. even though he was “just joking”. It held me back a lot in life. But, at the the same time we are so close and we’re together for a while and we had some really good memories too. I got really close with his family but when we broke up I never even said a thing to them, I just never went back over again. It’s been hard accepting hell never change.. I loved him a lot, I know he loves me but.. actions speak a lot louder then words. I know I deserve better in life now. Give me your opinions, comments, advice... please!

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You've finally realized loving someone doesn't translate into the right person for you. Bravo!

I know initially, it will be difficult but, give yourself a year of no contact with the guy. You'll be pleasantly surprised that, the more time passes, the less you'll feel like re-establishing contact, especially if you meet someone else. He lies to you and puts you down! That's not what a good friend does, much less a boyfriend. Right now, as long as you maintain contact with him, you'll never be able to move on to someone else. Break ups serve a purpose. Right now, you still are too emotionally involved with the guy. Emotional distance helps put things in perspective. Don't allow him to continue to manipulate you into staying in contact. He needs to start standing on his own 2 feet. You've enabled him to continue to act like an aimless teenager. He will lean on you and rely on you as long as you continue to allow him to. You are absolutely in control of the situation. Step away from him, for your own mental well being.