How does one deal with guilt ?
Not a regret just guilt😢 What mindset can get rid of it fast
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MasterofNone · 26-30, M
Level 1: A lot of self loathing until time passes.
Level 2: Talk to closed ones who will uplift you.
Level 3: Journalling. Finding out the reason why you could not have acted in any other way. (Usually because of lack of awareness) Or, finding out the roles played by other entities and humans. Finding out ways to make them right if there is. Or finding out whether you are feeling guilty because you are manipulated to feel that way from your childhood or if it is actually something so bad you did. Either way, journalling will make you feel like you are in charge of your emotions.
Level 4: Meditation and mindfulness. This makes you just rise above your emotions. As Einstein said, the consciousness which created the problem cannot solve it. You have to move up a level.
Ideally, Level 4 is where you should be looking at but depending on what you can do you choose the action.
P.S. I handled my guilt after my friend's suicide by a bit of every action in all of those levels.
Level 2: Talk to closed ones who will uplift you.
Level 3: Journalling. Finding out the reason why you could not have acted in any other way. (Usually because of lack of awareness) Or, finding out the roles played by other entities and humans. Finding out ways to make them right if there is. Or finding out whether you are feeling guilty because you are manipulated to feel that way from your childhood or if it is actually something so bad you did. Either way, journalling will make you feel like you are in charge of your emotions.
Level 4: Meditation and mindfulness. This makes you just rise above your emotions. As Einstein said, the consciousness which created the problem cannot solve it. You have to move up a level.
Ideally, Level 4 is where you should be looking at but depending on what you can do you choose the action.
P.S. I handled my guilt after my friend's suicide by a bit of every action in all of those levels.
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
@Quizzical Einstein had a fantastic understanding of human condition. And the realm of consciousness does not necessarily come under 'psychology' more like spirituality or psychospiritual in nature.
Quizzical · 46-50, M
@MasterofNone I guess that means CBT is a total waste of time then? 🤔
Orlbe · 26-30, F
@MasterofNone I am at level 2 but haven't totally left level 1
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
@Quizzical That was the point of me putting it into levels. And I'm not saying it is a waste of time, let alone total waste of time. In my opinion, it helps you go through life, saves you from emergency situation because the last thing you would do at times of stress is learn a new thing called meditation. It also helps you uncover things from past that were putting you down but yes with enough mindfulness throughout the day that becomes unnecessary and it is more of a permanent solution as compared to CBT. Moreover I am not an expert on CBT of course so there's that.
Orlbe · 26-30, F
@MasterofNone okay
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
@Orlbe Or, since you ask for mindset, try this story:
[quote]This is illustrated in the story of a wise man who won an expensive car in a lottery. His family and friends were very happy for him and came to celebrate. “Isn't it great!” they said. “You are so lucky.” The man smiled and said “Maybe.” For a few weeks he enjoyed driving the car. Then one day a drunken driver crashed into his new car at an intersection and he ended up in the hospital, with multiple injuries. His family and friends came to see him and said, “That was really unfortunate. “ Again the man smiled and said, “Maybe.” While he was still in the hospital, one night there was a landslide and his house fell into the sea. Again his friends came the next day and said, “Weren't you lucky to have been here in hospital.” Again he said, “Maybe.”[/quote]
So imagine the future as a consequence of what you did. The one because of whom feel guilty may also benefit from this in the long run and so will you. And ultimately you never know whether an action was good or bad until years have passed and the consequences show up.
A man gets fired. He gets offered a job in an even better place a month later. Another story which illustrates the usefulness of the "maybe" mindset towards good or bad consequences.
I'm sorry for blabbering on 😅
[quote]This is illustrated in the story of a wise man who won an expensive car in a lottery. His family and friends were very happy for him and came to celebrate. “Isn't it great!” they said. “You are so lucky.” The man smiled and said “Maybe.” For a few weeks he enjoyed driving the car. Then one day a drunken driver crashed into his new car at an intersection and he ended up in the hospital, with multiple injuries. His family and friends came to see him and said, “That was really unfortunate. “ Again the man smiled and said, “Maybe.” While he was still in the hospital, one night there was a landslide and his house fell into the sea. Again his friends came the next day and said, “Weren't you lucky to have been here in hospital.” Again he said, “Maybe.”[/quote]
So imagine the future as a consequence of what you did. The one because of whom feel guilty may also benefit from this in the long run and so will you. And ultimately you never know whether an action was good or bad until years have passed and the consequences show up.
A man gets fired. He gets offered a job in an even better place a month later. Another story which illustrates the usefulness of the "maybe" mindset towards good or bad consequences.
I'm sorry for blabbering on 😅