What kind of relationship is it?

I've been in my relationship for almost 4 years, but there has been some incidents and I'm thinking about break up. I know you can't tell me what to do, just be happy about your thoughts to them:
- I suggested to move in after I finish my phd (which would be like in 2 years) and he said, he's comfortable living with his friends and that maybe in 10 years he's gonna be prepared to move in with someone he's dating, cause it's a big step
- He gets angry when I just not even concretely say something about having children; last time he said, he can have children even when he's 60 (I'll be 57 then, so...), so why think about it now...
- He's got a tattoo of a heart with a name of his ex; he said he's gonna remove it once he starts to earn money, which was 2 years ago
- we have never said "I love you" before
- I said I don't wanna take the pill cause of the everyday hormon dosis and he said, he won't wear a condom, so we actually never even slept together
- We don't live in the same city, it was him who moved out and he said, he would want us to live in the same city one day. But he's kind of expecting I move in to some town across the country, cause he might have get an offer there; when I said how unfair it is, he said it's me who doesn't wanna be loyal
- he's taking marihuana on a regular basis


But on the other hand:
- he wanted to meet my family, introduced me to his and his friends
- he's saying I'm his girlfriend
- He's helping me with lots of stuffs, with moving, studying, listens...
- He says he wanna be with me


So what kind of relationship is it? I would say "friends with benefits", but we never slept together... So why be together with me but without planning any future? I just don't get it...