What would you do?

My boyfriend was talking about the downfall of him and his ex (it was brought up). So lets say my boyfriends name is Eric and his ex is Jackie. This is what Eric told me: Eric was friends with a girl named Sofia. Jackie was jealous of Sofia so she told Eric to stop talking to Sofia. Eric would get so pissed at Jackie that he would mess with Sofia on purpose. My issue is that he would intentionally want to hurt his (back then) girlfriend. Is there a new viewpoint to any of this? Is it even a bad thing?

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greenmountaingal · 80-89, F

Of course it's a bad thing. Instead of negotiating it honestly with his girlfriend, he preferred to use one woman to hurt the other. It says many bad things about him. But maybe the worst is that he is telling you about it. I would ask him, "So...is this what I can expect?"
Boundaries of behavior need to be discussed and negotiated, not played with or used as a weapon.