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Why would he chose her over me?

I know this is probably not gonna get a lot of answers but I need a place to vent...

This guy I’ve been trying to get to know for a short 2 and a half months just decided to chose someone else I guess.
I feel like we had that chemistry and much of our relationship was emotionally based. We talked almost every hour of every day and he was really into me! I’m confident, artistic, musical, sweet, compassionate and ambitious.
I was so patient with him and I was always there to pick him up when he was down.
I felt like this couldn’t have gone any better.

Fast forward, I found out he posted something on his Instagram story and he was in a hotel room with another girl calling her cute😞

I was so upset. He was always telling me how he wanted to be a good person and this and that but everything he said turned out to be so contradictory in the end....

When he noticed that I found out I blocked him on Instagram... he then proceeded to call me which I didn’t answer.... he texted me and apologized saying that he just started dating someone and he should’ve told me....

And really he should’ve. Because essentially he was leading me on....
But she doesn’t even live in the same state as us.
Which is cool if long distance is ur thing whatever.
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I dunno. I’m pretty poppin and confident and he had a lot of self esteem issues. He always thought I was more popular than him and he knew I was “desirable “ as they say. He knew I had a lot of options but he didn’t know I that he was the only one I gave my time to. once we were talking on the phone and he told me that I was smart and I made him feel stupid and I just honestly get the feeling he thought that he wasn’t good enough because he had so much self doubt.

He would always make comments like “I’m surprised you remember my name. That’s cool” and “you seem like you’re miss popular. I don’t have many friends.”. he would always tell me how how’s too weird to get a girlfriend... just little things like that which were pretty telling. I think I intimidated him so In the end he ruined it for himself through his insecurities.
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It really upset me that he lied and he tried and tried to apologize to me but I just couldn’t accept them. I mean how am I supposed to know he wasn’t lying then either??
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I dunno but we haven’t spoken in just under a week. He’s a shit head. I’m still poppin and cute but sometimes it bothers me u know. Anyone can tell you their deep feelings and fears and what scares them and you might think things are looking up but they could just be lies.

Our story is a long one there’s a lot to it but yeah. I dunno. I feel like he just settled on someone easier than I am. Maybe I intimidated him.
It wasn’t because he wasn’t into me because he was always complimenting me and telling me I was cute and artistic and such. He was definitely feeling me.... I just think he was a coward. Cause he would call me and be too shy to hang out or I dunno. Just certain things he would say u could tell he had low self esteem.
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It’s a really long story and a lot of the details are left out due to space. It’s a shame he threw such a good thing away.
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HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
This wasn't right of him to do, I mean not to tell you about it when you had a connection like that. However do not judge his choice as there might be more to it than you think.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@HannibalAteMeOut I told him that it wasn’t right of him to just leave me in the dark about that. We were never exclusively dating but I was always straight up with him about mingling with other people too. He was over here making it seem like that wasn’t happening on his side and I knew it was...but that fact that he snuck around me and I had to find out through other people was just shady as hell. I told him I kept it real and he agreed. He said he didn’t know why he did what he did and I told him not to lie to himself either because he knows why he did it.

He said “I was feeling you before I met this girl but then it got really complicated for me and I didn’t know how to handle it.”
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How was I supposed to believe any word in his apologies when he basically lying to me the whole time.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@Sb356 he's not worth the worry anymore. Leave him be.