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He isn’t very assertive....

I’m having trouble because this guy I’ve been talking to is a very sweet and awesome dude but....he isn’t very assertive? Like he’s not confident enough in himself to flirt with me or initiate a conversation or maybe when don’t talk for a minute hit me up and ask how I’m doing...it makes me feel like he isn’t interested or he doesn’t care. He comments on some of my pictures and that’s what usually starts a conversation between us but it’s never out of the blue like “hey just thinking about you” or what have you....
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Also Yesterday he was suppose to call me and we were texting before that and out of the blue he just says “okay talk to you later.” And I said “okay :)” and he just threw the peace sign at me and never called me....like wtf did I do?
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Not gonna lie that kinda hurt my feelings but it’s whatever. My sister says maybe he had something come up but don’t you think he could’ve at least communicated that to me? Like “hey sorry I’m gonna have to call you another night” or something just at least so I’m not over here thinking it’s my fault....
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The other day he was telling me about how Valentine’s Day sucked for him because he was alone so I flirtingly told him I wouldn’t mind being his valentine....just shit like that I’m always initiating and tbh it makes me feel so stupid after he pulls shit like this. Maybe I shouldn’t be assertive. Maybe I should just leave him alone. I’m more straightforward than he is and maybe that’s because he’s shy but I don’t wanna be making excuses for him. You either like me or you don’t. Maybe I should just fall back.
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How does he see himself???

i am one of those people who doesn't believe that anyone could possibly be attracted to her and he's acting pretty much the same way that i do.

He might be more inclined to take the initiative if you are straight to the point and leave him with no doubt whatsoever that you are into him.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl he’s expressed to me before that he’s too weird to even have a girlfriend but I keep telling him that I don’t think he’s as bad as he thinks he is. He’s seen my shut other guys down and kind of implied that he didn’t want that to happen to him. I let him know that flirting with me it’s okay but I dunno. It doesn’t reaaaallyyy happen unless I start it.
@Sb356 There's your problem... he has little self esteem/self confidence. You need to help him to build that up and carry on reassuring him until he believes that you speak the truth.

It will take time, but, if you keep at it, he will see the truth in what you say and will start to change his thinking and actions as he gains confidence.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@Sb356 he does comment on my pictures and tells me I’m pretty etc