If your partner texts you the word “usually” after saying something sweet how would you respond?

So, my partners wrote me something very nice, but added the word “usually” on the end of the sentence because he “...doesn’t always feel that way about me when I make him mad” and he wanted his lovely statement to be 100% accurate... This made me sad because I didn’t think it was necessary to taint a very nice thing with the word “usually” and I told him that it hurt my feelings a little bit... Now, it probably wouldn’t have bothered me except, for the last year and a half, my partner has kept a list of my failings as a partner... anything he doesn’t like about me or he finds annoying goes on the list... so, to me, it felt that by adding an addendum (i.e. “usually”), he was just pointing out (again) how he gets upset with me. I just wanted to tell him how that word made me feel and he thinks I was just trying to start an argument... which I wasn’t... I just wanted to share my feelings and I was just expecting him to do what I would do if the roles were reversed and say, “Hey, I didn’t know that would hurt your feelings a little. I’m sorry.” Instead, he essentially told me that I didn’t have a right to feel that way about the word “usually” and that I was just looking for fault... and that he shouldn’t have to sensor his language around me... now, he says that he’s never going to compliment me ever again. Now, take note, we’ve been together for five years and this is only the 4th time I’ve ever mentioned anything along these lines... the first was when he said he would “hate” my wedding dress if it was a certain way... I thought “hate” was harsh... the second was when he said he would hang out with me “as long as nothing better came up”....harsh.... the third was when he criticized my thighs and I thought that this was unnecessary because most women have cellulite and, at the time, I was 5’3” at 118 with hourglass measurements... so, not overweight... this is just the fourth time of me saying something he said was unnecessary...

So, tell me... I was I out of line with saying I thought it was an unnecessary thing to say and to tell him that it hurt my feelings? Was I in the wrong because, if I am, I want to know about it so I can be better next time...

Thanks!