Officially single now I guess 😔

Isn’t it though? Shit hurts and for them to not see how they’re wrong in the situation just makes things worse. My feelings are constantly dismissed and I’m a very forgiving person so I feel like they’ve taken advantage @SW-User

@Fantasyproject You're right about feelings being dismissed. I lost my wife after 20 years and people were saying, yes i lost my puppy a while back, but you get over it in an hour or two, or.. i've decided you've grieved long enough now, so pull yourself together and enjoy being alone 😧

See I don’t like when people do that because everyone handles things differently. The fact that they’d even compare her to a dog is highly disrespectful @SW-User

@Fantasyproject Yeah i know, and that was real life people i knew. Actually the best and most supportive were people on here. They were great.. and from all parts of the world. Kinda gives me hope that people everywhere can be good.

I guess that’s why this is the first place I came. I have no one to call 😔@SW-User

@Fantasyproject Yeah, it's like that for me these days. I found when you go through a relationship split, people don't get closer but they seem to distance themselves from you. idk how it works but it just hurts more.

Yea it really does and I don’t know if I have the strength to pick up the pieces this time. Usually it hurts but I can handle it and still come out on top. This time it’s different, the fire that was burning me, is no longer there. I feel weak @SW-User

@Fantasyproject I can relate. My brother just lost is wife so we were both talking about how we were coping today. Feeling weak and losing focus and energy seem to be common.

It does, I’m really emotionally drained @SW-User

@Fantasyproject I'm sorry you are going through this, i know the pain all too well, but it does get better, but it happens slowly... too slowly i think.

I was hoping for a quick fix but that’ll basically be me suppressing my emotions right? Trying to actually allow myself to heal this time. @SW-User

@Fantasyproject I don't think there's a quick fix but i've been told that the younger you are, the quicker you recover, just like a physical injury. I haven't experienced this so i can't say for certain, but it could give you hope. I'm an outdoors type so i found (am finding) that lots of exercise is helping me. I guess you probably have to find something that helps you, and takes your mind off of it and makes you feel happy again. Wish i could have better suggestions sorry :( Hope you feel better soon :)

I guess you’re right, I just don’t have a distraction right now and everything is still fresh. Hopefully getting away, finding a psychiatrist and working will help me forget@SW-User

@Fantasyproject I think a psychiatrist and a change of environment are both great ideas.

Hopefully it works, mainly the psychiatrist, that’s long overdue @SW-User