Is my crush not over his ex ?

I mean, they have only broken up since November or something, so I suppose there is still something there.

He talks sometimes about her. More in, I need to get it out and the ME happens to be a good listener. ( more like, yeah she did me bad. It was toxic. I think it is for the best...)
But recently, like today, he'd say more specific things, that sound compliment'ish. Few minutes ago I was telling him that he shouldn't expect his lover to be always beautiful, with nice hair, glowing and all, all the time, even in the comfort of home and all. Even gave myself as an example ( it was a video call, I was all messy bun and oversized shirt ).

What does he say ? Yeah, well X was always looking like a supreme beauty, even at home, even on bad days, even when crying, depressed, she was always perfect.

And somehow I felt hurt cuz it sounded like a comparison ? Yo, sorry we're not all beauty queens.

This is just an example, but he started saying these things a lot.
Time to uncrush I think.
Or is it actually something people say and I am overreacting because I am socially anxious and I have like 2 friends so can't know what the norms are ?

GohantheThird · M

As someone who has listened to crushes tell me stories about their ex's, it has been my experience that the crush is not mutual. Sure, she might only be with him because she's lonely but she still didn't choose me. At that point, I decided to see some other women. Felt much better, and managed to find that same spark with someone else. I was happier.

You could take the risk and just tell him how you feel. Don't hint at it, just say it. He may not feel the same way, but at least you won't have that hanging over your head though. If he does, then you can see if a relationship is still possible. If not, then maybe it's better not to see him for a while. I didn't see one crush for three months, and I managed to find someone else. Maybe try the same method.