Why is it when people start relationships with someone who has a certain type of job, they end up wanting them to leave said job?

@Anonymartyr so it would be a conditional relationship from the start. Might wanna move on to someone who has an office job, but that might be a little boring to some women.

@cherokeepatti Such relationships tend to be either very short or very distant and cautious until engagement. And so far after so many women, I have never been i\n a relationship that wasn't conditional whether I liked it or not.
That is why I quit the sex first relationships. My condition is marriage before sex.

@Anonymartyr My nephew was engaged to a beautiful young woman, he had a business that he was partners in and he worked long hours. She knew it when they got engaged. He went hunting (his one real past-time) in November and she broke up with him for it. Said she felt neglected and he wasn’t spending enough time with her. She knew him for at least two years and knew he had a business and went hunting every November. I don’t know what went wrong that she couldn’t handle him hunting once a year.

@cherokeepatti My wife married me because I had a stable full-time job. We broke up because she couldn't handle me being at work 8 hours 5 days a week.

@Anonymartyr You know what I heard a marriage counselor say on a tv interview. He said the things that attract us to another person are also the things that cause us to break up. It is crazy.

@cherokeepatti He is correct. A man should be attracted to a woman primarily over maternal instincts, not physical attributes. And a woman should be attracted to all forms of stability, not just financial.

@Anonymartyr My sister-in-law did that too. She grew up in a family with 8 children and 1 breadwinner. So money was spread really thin, they had what they needed and not a whole lot more. She dated the neighbor boy and when they got old enough (she was 16 & the parents signed for her) they got married. Her husband was going to engineering school & she said they’d be rich. But after she got everything she wanted (nice custom home, new vehicles, new furniture, etc.) she got bored. They had 3 children and she divorced him saying he was a stick-in-the-mud because he didn’t want to go out all the time, bored with his job etc.

@cherokeepatti Fortunately my wife and I never had any children.