Why is it when people start relationships with someone who has a certain type of job, they end up wanting them to leave said job?

For example, X has been a cop before meeting Y, but after they get into a relationship or married, Y wants X to give up that job?

You got him/her in that particular profession, why demand a change afterwards?

Do you think it's fair?

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Melpomene · 22-25, F

"Oh, I didn't know you'll mean so much to me" kind of thing?
Jokes aside, maybe they realise how dangerous that job is or there's an opportunity for a new/different kind of job?
Maybe they want something better for the person they love?
I think it's normal to want the best for your partner but there's no reason to expect someone to change their job just because the other person doesn't like it.

iMystery · M

@Melpomene The argument is almost always based on the feelings of the person demanding the job change, which I believe is something that should have been considered even before getting into a relationship with that person.

Melpomene · 22-25, F

@iMystery Then the feelings of the person [i]doing [/i]that job should also be taken into consideration.
Although everyone agrees that you don't have the right to change any aspect of a person if they themselves don't want to, you can't really know some things before you try; for example, if that job is making you do *something* that maybe you wouldn't if you didn't have that job...

iMystery · M

@Melpomene In that case it would be the one [i]doing[/i] the job to make the decision to change, which is a totally different scenario.

Melpomene · 22-25, F

@iMystery I'm starting to think you just want people to side with you...

iMystery · M

@Melpomene Not at all.

Melpomene · 22-25, F

@iMystery Then X and Y should have an honest talk about how they feel and why.