Why is it when people start relationships with someone who has a certain type of job, they end up wanting them to leave said job?

@cherokeepatti I just said the same thing to someone a few days ago.

@iMystery Even if they don’t break up they will resent having to change something like a career because their partner didn’t like it. That resentment tends to grow as the new wears off the relationship.

@cherokeepatti Very true... This then sparks other fights which may be seemingly unrelated to that resentment, but subconsciously that resentment is displayed in other behaviour

@iMystery that’s generally the pattern of it. I had a cousin who’s sweetheart & fiancé he met in high school. He got drafted & was sent to Vietnam. His fiancé had long hair that she never cut in high school. He asked her to keep her hair long while he was gone & not to cut it & she promised she would. He did his stint & came back & they got married. They were married a couple of years and he started asking her to cut her hair. She refused, he kept asking, then pressuring her, it went on a few years & they started fighting. Ended up getting divorced. I think the hair was symbolic to each in different ways, to her it was her way of saying she waited for him & for him it reminded him of the war. To get a divorce over the length of hair on the woman seems unimaginable. I think they should have gone to counseling but divorced instead.