Why is it when people start relationships with someone who has a certain type of job, they end up wanting them to leave said job?

For example, X has been a cop before meeting Y, but after they get into a relationship or married, Y wants X to give up that job?

You got him/her in that particular profession, why demand a change afterwards?

Do you think it's fair?

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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

Honestly I think people can want to leave for many things that existed on day 1. In regards to employment thats dangerous I understand how once you’ve grown to love them, the idea of everyday being scared to lose them could become overwhelming. It takes a special strength to stay supportive when you know the risks the person you love takes everyday. I’m not saying it’s fair to the person who believed their partner understood and supported them. I can only imagine it would be down right heart wrenching and frustrating. I’m just not certain how they could go about avoiding it.

iMystery · M

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Yet that is what they signed up for from the get go.

Imagine what the wives of Navy SEALS and other Special Forces or Combat Soldiers must go through. Yet its something they signed up for.

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

@iMystery I understand that. But it’s not an unheard of thing to say you are prepared to accept something... that is until you are living it. Realize you aren’t prepared to do that and then what are the options