Why is it when people start relationships with someone who has a certain type of job, they end up wanting them to leave said job?

For example, X has been a cop before meeting Y, but after they get into a relationship or married, Y wants X to give up that job?

You got him/her in that particular profession, why demand a change afterwards?

Do you think it's fair?

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SW-User

No, it's not fair. But, if it's a job that has a certain amount of danger tied to it, I can understand their being fearful of losing the person they love.

iMystery · M

@SW-User Yet that is what they signed up for knowing that person's profession in the first place.

SW-User

@iMystery It's not right for anyone to ask another person to change their profession. Better off not getting further involved once they know what the person does for a living.

Carissimi · 70-79, F

I suppose it could be that at the start of the relationship, they are not in love. Loving someone makes a difference to how you feel about their safety and losing them.@iMystery

iMystery · M

@Carissimi That may happen yes, but then the person who wasn't in love since the beginning should question themselves and ask why they got involved in the first place.

Carissimi · 70-79, F

Most people are not in love when they start dating. Love comes later. I find it odd that you think you must love someone before you start a relationship. That’s what a relationship is for, to get to know someone. @iMystery