At what point is a relationship not worth it?

The relationship itself isn’t horrible, I just don’t know if I want to put up with the specific problems that I seem to be having to deal with kind of often. I’m not relying on my partner to make me happy, rather I’m just trying to decide if I can live with these frustrations (we are engaged). I don’t feel at peace, but I know that all relationships do take work. It’s nothing serious like abuse or addiction or anything, but I seem to have these reoccurring issues that don’t sit right with me. And they keep happening in different ways even though I’ve talked to my partner about it. Outside of those frustrations, everything else is pretty good! Has anyone experienced anything similar? And what did you do about it?

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raysam363 · 31-35, F Best Comment

Well the problems are your business, don't share if you aren't comfortable, but they can present an issue if they are consistent. You understand that a relationship is not a dependent situation, so good for you, many don't get to that point. However, if talking isn't solving these issues and they are serious, it may be time to consider your future more seriously. Talk to friends, family, get more personal opinions. If the problems are minor and nothing more than mild annoyances, it may require you to change a bit as well.

No relationship is ever "perfect," no matter how much we want to believe, but they can be "perfect enough."

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

s far as marriage goes, you two are not a match. If these things bother you now, they will really be hell when you're married.

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