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Would you want to know if, after 25 years, your spouse's crazy ex made contact again?

It's been 24½ years since I told my ex from hell (https://similarworlds.com/4184835-I-Had-a-Relationship-With-a-Crazy-Person/1405508-My-Ex-From-Hell-I-think-sometimes-its-very) to leave me alone forever and all times. It's been 24¼ years since a cop convinced me that a restraining order was unnecessary, since he got through to her just how thin the ice she was skating on was. She just messaged me on Facebook. I didn't read the whole message, just the summary that the app gives without you opening it. She begins by hoping I forgave her for what she put me through. The last time she sought my forgiveness, it was to get me back, and it ended with the police getting involved. I doubt her sincerity.
Forgiveness isn't the issue. But that chick is crazy and with the misery she inflicted on me, I just don't want anything to do with her! I'm wondering if I should inform my wife. She knows about my ex from hell, but hasn't indicated much interest or insecurity over my past relationships, (she never had any herself) but I don't see what good it would do to tell her. This is how I'm thinking of handling it:
1. Pretend I haven't seen it for a week or so. This means not opening it, since I think the sender would be able to tell.
2. Open the message.
3. Copy the message in case I need that restraining order.
4. Block her.
5. Wait several months.
6. Either tell my wife or continue leaving her in blissful ignorance.
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GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
You should tell her immediately and make sure she knows exactly what you are planning to do and why.
Hiding this and having her find out later is going to look real bad.