How do you move on from an abusive relationship?

I got out of a really bad relationship a few months ago. While I don’t love my abuser anymore the affects still linger. To the point where I push people away because I am so afraid of being hurt. It cost me someone I really love recently, and I can’t stop kicking myself over it . How do you learn to be patient with yourself and learn how to allow someone to love you the way you deserve?

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

When it comes to fear, the only way is to face it. The fear is just gonna be there. You have to become more courageous by confronting those things you fear, incrementally if need be, slowly getting used to it again.

For those other questions. Learning to be patient with yourself. One decent way is to think "I'm going to treat myself as if I'm someone I care about." Imagine yourself as someone else. It's kinda a great reflection on humanity, in this sense, because we often neglect ourselves more than we would other people. So, thinking of treating yourself like you would treat someone else can be effective.

How to allow someone to love you will prolly come as you become more courageous by getting used to facing the fear.

lequack · 26-30, F

@Tatsumi This comment brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@lequack You're welcome. ^_^ Good luck.