What should I do?

My bf and I have been dating for 6 months now. 2 years ago he ended a 7 year relationship with a girl who went to my school (she was known to be the mean girl). I was very hesitant to date him for this reason. They still have all their pictures together and would always show large displays of affection. Writing I love you under every photo and that she was the best thing that ever happened to him. She ended up betraying him and so he left her.
We have been dating for 6 months now and he has not told me he has loved me yet or doesn’t call me baby or love.
He told me he has a difficult time of expressing himself but I didn’t feel that was the case when he was with his ex. I just feel like I’m more into the relationship than he is and I want to avoid that/get hurt. What should I do?

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BeefySenpie · M

Tell him exactly what you just told us

Montanaman · M

@BeefySenpie BA! 👍😎

Grazza · 56-60, M

When you've been with someone for seven years it takes a very long time to get over it. He's probably also holding back so he doesn't get hurt again. As others have said, talk to him about it. He needs to work through it at his own pace.
I wish you all the best with it, it isn't going to be easy for you though.

cd1019 · 41-45, M

Tell him he's clearly not over his ex and that he needs to make a decision between the 2 of you.

TerriG · 26-30, F

Just give him time. I think you are over thinking this.

SW-User

Shave your head.

QuietEd2019 · 31-35, M

Would have let him have a rebound relationship first while he still pines for ex then have begun dating him when he was more ready?

Sensitiveheart · 31-35, F

But he had relationships before and ended them all. After two years I thought he was ready @QuietEd2019

QuietEd2019 · 31-35, M

@Sensitiveheart ahh right been going 6 months? Seems like a good proportion of 2 years if had relationships since ex of 7 years? Then I have never had a relationship last 6 months 😞 I guess don’t rush him when he is ready he will be able to say that he loves you being betrayed after 7 years is very damaging so he is definitely going to be less openly stating that he loves someone? Look at actions too if he is doing things that are thoughtful and you think how sweet that’s also showing he cares about you and loves you even if he is not physically saying it

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