How important is this to you...?

I'm 45 yrs old. I am not having anymore babies come out of my body. I am done with 'having kids.' MY kids are adults.
If having more kids is that important to you, while it is not to me, why not just move on? Do you want to change your mind about Not having anymore kids? If not, then don't expect me to change mine about Not having more kids. I do not want to. I am closed for bidniz!

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SW-User

I don't blame you, it seems exhausting to think about having one now.. even if i had a great partner and money wasn't an issue.

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@SW-User Even with all of that taken into consideration... I do not want to start all over...

SW-User

@Phire1 I always wanted to have my own family... ever since i was a teen... but i couldn't imagine starting out with it now. Have you been finding people are expecting you to have more kids?

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@SW-User Not only that, but also been finding older guys looking for younger women to have kids with. That's fine. But, Do Not include My Feelings in that BS while looking. TF?? I am Not their pass-time.

I have come across younger guys (30's) who want kids/more kids. I have come across older guys looking for the same. All I expect is to not play games with me in order to try to get me to change my mind. It is NOT going to happen.
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SW-User

@Phire1 I never would have thought older guys would be interested in having kids. Nothing should really surprise me though.

So guys play games to try and get you interested in having kids? If it's that same game playing i saw guys do when i was dating when i was younger that would be really annoying, and you'd think they'd have grown out of that by now. You'd think they'd think that just being honest about what they'd want would work better?

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@SW-User Yeah, it's weird. If I say I don't want to, I mean it. Having to explain my age, my kids being adults now (not wanting to start over), and getting technical about the kids' increasing risk of having mental health and physical health disorders when having them at this later age of mine, doesn't seem to be enough to say...