How do I stop opening up so easily?
I keep making the same mistake with women and I don’t know why. I can’t even get a first date without my mouth opening up to them and then it causes nothing , but problems for the both of us.
26-30, M
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What do you talk about? Do you complain about your life?
VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M
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@VulcanGalaxy You need to retrain your brain. Start with the people in your life ...friends, family, coworkers. When you see them, ask them questions about themselves. How are you, what did you do last weekend, have seen any good movies, how's your family, how was work, ...whatever comes to mind when interacting with them. If you know their history, ask about the important people in their life. Ask questions, and show you're interested in what's going on with them. Do it with everyone, until it becomes a habit. Don't talk about yourself. If they ask, give short answers and ask them something else. As I said, retrain your brain to show interest in the other person's life. People like to talk about themselves and that you're interested in what they're saying. It automatically puts people at ease, makes them feel important, and you've deflected the discussion away from yourself.
Once you get to the point where you automatically place priority on what the other person has to say, start going out on dates again.
Once you get to the point where you automatically place priority on what the other person has to say, start going out on dates again.
