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How long does it take you to get over a past relationship?

Tatsumi · 31-35, M
The last real relationship I had was when I was 17 years old. We were engaged. That one hurt pretty good.

I would say that one took me 5 years to recover from. But I also wasn't dating, and I think that made the pain immeasurably worse.

It's kinda unfortunate to think this way, but I think "replacing" the other person is pretty fucking important for healing. Even just a temporary relationship, if it was a serious one.

Only other people can heal what another person damaged. At least, that has been my experience. It takes fucking forever to heal, otherwise.
rjc36 · 56-60, M
Sometimes you never really do you just have to except it and move on with your life.
User41 · 36-40, M
I was over it before it ended 🤷🏻‍♂️
I never get over it, time keeps marching forward and the pain is deadened while I find other ways to think about things that happened in the relationship, harness my self-awareness, and remind myself "It's for the best."
SW-User
@lovelywarpedlemon that happens with me too. 😕
SailorMarz · F
It depends..i was so done with my last relationship, that it didn't take that long to get over it.

But If i lost a relationship i treasured ...i imagine that it'd hit me hard. Probably a year..or two? I'm not sure. But around there
Chevy454 · 46-50, M
Just going through a divorce now. It’s tough. They say, The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. I have to try that approach!!
@Chevy454 I'm sorry to hear that. Be gentle with yourself and do what's needed to cope.
SW-User
Didn’t take me long to get over my last one, apart from the emotional scars she left me with.
If I lose the one I’m currently in I think it would break me though.
silkandlace · 46-50, M
My first major relationship? Gosh it was almost 6 years😖
scooogy · 31-35, MVIP
@silkandlace and how long was the relationship?
silkandlace · 46-50, M
@scooogy 2 and a half years; i feel i must clarify since you asked,, 6 years till the last time i asked anyone i knew about her; if you're posting this because you're having a hard time of a break-up, hindsight is Always 20-20, but she totally wasn't worth what i put myself through after, be strong and confident and live your life, i WASTED those 6 years
Some I can get over right away, like a month or two. There were at least 2 that took many years to recover from.
SW-User
scooogy · 31-35, MVIP
@SW-User and how long had the relationship lasted for?
SW-User
@scooogy On and off 8 years
SW-User
About 37 minutes.
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F

 
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