As far as the presumption of ill intention on my part

The big reason I got turned against monogamy is as an institution it essentially is responsible for a shitload of domestic violence and the culture surrounding it does not another to remotely educate women about the warning signs... it actively enables it too-the expectation of fidelity is essentially the god-damn VERY Thing the abusers weaponize....jealousy is used as a control mechanism etc...

my intentions couldn't be purer, to put it mildly it's much more difficult to abuse women in a crowd especially if one or more of the guys or girls involved are protective....

Somebody will notice, abuse thrives on isolation and cutting you off from other sources of support.