How do you get a man to help pay your rent I’ve brought it up but he doesn’t seem to comprehend

I think by him knowing my finances he doesn’t think I need help but I’m not able to save money or do anything extra outside of my bills he pays the phone bill and internet which is $120 each month for both. I receive 1200 each month my rent is $300 I have a washer and dryer bill of 125 each month I have other things I need to pay that takes the rest of my money and here he gets to buy car parts and maybe buy little household needs that I need each month but I don’t feel it’s enough. He does side jobs and don’t work but he has hundreds of dollars every now and then all he does with his money is take it and fix his car to sell it. But I just don’t want to be wrong thinking or overthinking it What should I do ?

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Frank52 · 70-79, M

If you don't assert yourself very soon, he will assume you don't have a problem and carry on exploiting the situation. Your challenge doesn't have to be aggressive, but it must be firm. If he takes offence and becomes angry, then you will know you are in an abusive relationship which you are financing.

You say he is your fiance. You must think you know him pretty well to have got this far, so I am sure if this is truly a loving partnership, he will understand and come not just to respect your position, but put his money into the relationship as well as other things.