How do you get a man to help pay your rent I’ve brought it up but he doesn’t seem to comprehend

I think by him knowing my finances he doesn’t think I need help but I’m not able to save money or do anything extra outside of my bills he pays the phone bill and internet which is $120 each month for both. I receive 1200 each month my rent is $300 I have a washer and dryer bill of 125 each month I have other things I need to pay that takes the rest of my money and here he gets to buy car parts and maybe buy little household needs that I need each month but I don’t feel it’s enough. He does side jobs and don’t work but he has hundreds of dollars every now and then all he does with his money is take it and fix his car to sell it. But I just don’t want to be wrong thinking or overthinking it What should I do ?

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Mamapolo2016 · F Best Comment

He comprehends all right. He’s counting on you to be so thrilled by his presence you don’t notice he’s wrecking your finances penny by penny.

Draw up an accounting, including food, rent, utilities, cable, phone. At the bottom, divide it in half then sit him down and explain. “This is your half of our living expenses. Every time your clothes are washed and dried, those appliances get older. If you weren’t eating here, my food costs would be half of what they are. The roof over our heads is half yours. I can’t afford you this way.”

MrsCurious · 26-30, F

I’m going to try that how can I find a template what budget sheet would that be or just make one of my own @Mamapolo2016

Mamapolo2016 · F

@MrsCurious There are budget templates on line but you don’t need one. Pen and paper will do fine.

List the name of each bill in the first column, and the amount of the bill in the second. Total the amount at the bottom.

Total those. Then divide the total budget expenses in half.

You can add two more columns - showing what you pay and what he pays. Total those to drive home your point.

If you both use the car or he drives you where you want to go, you have to somehow factor that in to be fair.

Understand, if the gravy train comes to a halt, he may say, “This is my stop. I’m getting off here.”

That is the sum total of my financial expertise. 😊