How do you get a man to help pay your rent I’ve brought it up but he doesn’t seem to comprehend

I think by him knowing my finances he doesn’t think I need help but I’m not able to save money or do anything extra outside of my bills he pays the phone bill and internet which is $120 each month for both. I receive 1200 each month my rent is $300 I have a washer and dryer bill of 125 each month I have other things I need to pay that takes the rest of my money and here he gets to buy car parts and maybe buy little household needs that I need each month but I don’t feel it’s enough. He does side jobs and don’t work but he has hundreds of dollars every now and then all he does with his money is take it and fix his car to sell it. But I just don’t want to be wrong thinking or overthinking it What should I do ?

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caccoon · 36-40

Is he living there?

MrsCurious · 26-30, F

Yes every day @caccoon

caccoon · 36-40

@MrsCurious Have you told him specifically that half of the rent and utilities is his responsibility? Directly?

MrsCurious · 26-30, F

Yes I bring it up when he mentions we got bills to pay and I just be like what bills he ask what bill is coming up next And I’m like rent and he just disregards that I even mentioned and his main concern is internet and the phone and insurance for his vehicles ! Which is selfish @caccoon

caccoon · 36-40

@MrsCurious Honestly, the money is a problem, but the main problem is that he's totally disrespecting you and taking advantage of you. It's not something that is likely to change anytime soon, and he would have to WANT to change... which he doesn't, because there are no consequences.

So, you'll have to kick him out and he can pay his own rent in his own place. I know that leaves you in a situation where you probably can't afford everything, so you might have to get a roommate or something?

Anyway, I can't tell you what to do, but I would work on getting away from this fool. It may take a while, but it is not impossible.

MrsCurious · 26-30, F

Thanks I needed to hear that I do need to get rid of him the only thing he is good for is a ride to where I need to go @caccoon

caccoon · 36-40

@MrsCurious Yeah, that's no good. :( I know it's hard, and it's hugely stressful and unfair that you have to do all of this shit because he's irresponsible... but yeah. It'll be good for you! And I'm sure it'll improve your life a lot.

Do you have family and/or friends to help you through this time? 🤗

MrsCurious · 26-30, F

No they do t give me any advice they just listen @caccoon

caccoon · 36-40

@MrsCurious That's okay! At least they are there if you need them, though?

Do you have any reason to believe he'd be violent or would harass you if you kicked him out?