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How has being disabled affected your dating life? (If you are disabled)

I just got granted SSD because of depression and PTSD. This is only temporary. I am curious as to how this has affected your social life particularly with dating. Please feel free to message me with your response.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
I'm a disabled Army veteran (non-combat injury) with TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury), dealing with migraines, seizures, some vision loss and heaps of depression. A lot has happened in my life since the injury. Marriage ended, got into and out of a long term relationship and have been mostly single for the last 15+ years. My social life is almost non-existent, but mostly because of how my head reacts to the world around me. I've "dated" online off and on, but it's not the same.

Being able to come to terms with what you're dealing with and treating it, seeking available avenues of aid will help you. I can't say anything about PTSD, don't have it, so can't really relate. Depression is a roller coaster that will do a number on you if you aren't aware of things that can set it off. I've been fighting mine for years and though I have a better grasp of what can hit me hard, it still catches me off guard.

Also, if you meet someone that you're really into and they seem the same, I'd tell them early on. It's not like it use to be, the stigma and frowns about depression and even mental illness. Before it was something to be ashamed of, to hide. Nowadays, you hear people talking openly about the meds they take for this and that. Might be because of the over medicating mentality or just that people are more aware and share. Either way, for me, I let the woman that shows any interest in me right off, that I'm a handful, just on the medical side alone. If they're alright with it, move ahead. If not, then I saved us both some time. As I always say though, that's me and how I do things. It's not always right for everyone else. You need to find out what works for you and go with it.
HannahSky · F
There's levels of disability, and your's is blind, no offense, I don't think you'll have a problem.
Powderflask · 31-35, M
@HannahSky I had that same thought
bdh1986 · 36-40, M
@HannahSky I don't quite understand. Can you elaborate?
HannahSky · F
@bdh1986 there's a difference between people who can't walk vs people who have PTSD in terms of what people see
You can have PTSD and nobody knows. You can't walk, people notice and it impacts how people perceive you.
Powderflask · 31-35, M
It has affected my social life greatly, but I feel all I've pushed through is just misunderstood.
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